Summer Cool With Ayurveda

2014-07-25 @ 13:43:00

 
The summer is the season of Pitta in Ayurveda. Think hot, fire and steam. And if you’re already Pitta dominant, this season can overload you and put you off balance which usually shows in the face. But no matter what constitution, anyone could benefit from some Pitta reducing tricks in the summer!
 

How To Cool Down Both Body & Mind

 
 
Foods
 
The Summer is the perfect time for living on raw food and it’s quite cooling for the body too! Think of fully ripe sweet and juicy fruits and leafy greens to be at least 80% of your daily diet, and cut down the fat intake. Sipping on cooling water (not ice cold) throughout the day will also keep the fire low. Avoid onions, garlic, spicy and hot foods, rather indulge in cold soups or wait until the meal has gotten to room temperature.
 
 
 
Yoga & Exercise
 
It can be quite tempting to have fun in the sun, but it’s best to avoid exercising during the hot part of the day. If you like biking or running try doing it early mornings and evenings instead when the temperature is slightly cooler. Otherwise, favor peaceful and relaxing walks in nature, light gardening, swimming and gentle yoga.
 

As for gentle yoga, Moon Salutations are more appropriate than Sun Salutation during this season. Keeping the practice fun and light with plenty of twists and side body openers. Try to not sweat and focus more on your exhalations!
 
 
 
Pranayama
 
Practicing cooling pranayamas after asanas or when you feel a build up of heat can help.
Shitali (cooling breath) and Left-Nostril breathing will calm the hot quality of Pitta. The left nostril is associated with our body’s cooling energy, and by breathing through it it activates the Ida Nerve Ending in the left nostril, which relates to calmness and relaxation. 
 
 
Moon Bathing
 
Limit sunbathing and try moon-bathing. The moon’s cooling light helps to balance Pitta.
Engage in full moon beach walks, hikes, strolls or even sitting outdoors under the rays of the moon infuses the body with the moon’s cooling nature.
 
 

Cooling Skincare

 
 
Neem Oil
 
Neem has a bitter taste, which gives its powerful cooling effect. It’s one of the most cooling herbalized oils used in Ayurveda and this makes it most balancing to Pitta. One prominent location excess Pitta is shown is the skin; the heat from the sun can much likely aggregate it.
By applying Neem, either topically or orally, you can sooth the skin/body, and cool the inflamed bits. It's even very good to have against mosquitos and to sooth itching bites.

COOLING & CALMING NEEM MASK

2Tsp Raw Buckwheat Honey
1Tsp Neem Leaf Powder
5 Drops Neem Oil
A few drops of Roman Chamomile
+ Too thick, add some water
Mix, apply and let set for 20 minutes.
 
Coconut & Sunflower Oil
 
A cooling massage with these oil and an addition of some cooling essential oils of: Rose, Ylang Ylang, Sandalwood, Jasmine or Lavender will keep you calm and collected throughout those hot summer days.
This both nourishes the skin and protects it against the heat and sunny days.
 
 
Rose Water
 
Pitta benefits from regular hydration especially in summer to counter heat. Rose is considered cooling for mind, body and emotions, and is used topically, orally and even inhaled to relax the spirit. Keeping some chilled Rose Water Mist on hand to spray during the hot days can be helpful, and works just as well in smoothies. Agni (Fire) shows in the eyes, and it can be a good thing to soak a cotton gal with some Rose Water and cleanse the eyelids with, this will bring Pitta down.
 
 
Hope you have a lovely summer! :)
 
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Summer Break

2014-07-07 @ 15:00:00

 
It’s time for the yearly summer break in the blog-o-sphere. I always see visitor-stat decline around this time, and usually I’m not that active either. After making it a mission at the beginning of this year to post at least once a week, I think I can do that this summer.
But as always, I will try to focus on the three F’s: Family, Friends & Fruit! Leaving only room for some occasional Instagram and answering any comments!
I also have some other plans for this blog that I need to concentrate on so stay tuned for that! ;)
 
In the meantime I would love to hear what you would like to see more on the blog!
Tell me in the comments below!

Otherwise I’m wishing You the best Summer and all the luck for your plans!
Peter and I are starting this summer out with a Watermelon Feast for two days before heading to Stockholm for one week to see my mom, then it's back to our summer house to finish building our carport.
 
Lots of Love & Fruit <3 
 
 
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How I Cured My Cystic Acne And Balanced Out My Hormones

2014-07-04 @ 11:42:00

 
Admitting that something wasn’t working for you is always a terrifying feeling, which you procrastinate until your denial becomes acceptance.
 

Procrastinating

After seeing and feeling great results on my new lifestyle of raw foods & 801010 there was still one thing that bothered me and that seemed to be getting worse as time went by. I kept being told things like "I’m rushing it", "some things takes time" and ”You think that after years of abuse it will just get ’fixed’?!”

Maybe I was doing it wrong?

Isn’t it funny how we are quick to find our own failure when it could in fact be the diet that is faulty?

Ooh, yes I said that.

But let’s not blame anyone. No one did anything wrong. 
 
Ignorance can’t be blamed but not looking forward and continuing searching for an answer can.

The number one thing that made me go to the extreme: my cystic acne. 
I don’t blame the food, I actually have complete trust that it would take care of itself eventually as long as I stick to the program. But you can imagine how sick and tired I was of having bad skin, and it was starting to get out of control again, back to the horrible ways of how it was before I changed my diet and all!

I couldn’t really take comfort in others going through the same thing because I felt that this wasn’t just another detox. The worst wasn’t the worst and the best was months away. And when I was slowly getting to my one year mark I got utterly disappointed that this journey left me with nothing but back to square one. 

I started longing for how it felt in the beginning of my journey, all excited and hopeful.
It led me to reevaluate and start over; I must have missed something important.
 
 

One Step Back

I decided to fully commit to The Beauty Detox Solution (review here) for a few months, and that included the suggested supplementation of Probiotics.

I had tried eating sauerkraut, kimchi and other fermented foods before, but with evil results. I tried it several times in different combinations but with the same thing happening: after one hour I was standing in front of the toilette puking my guts out; it felt too acidic in my stomach. I must’ve been too sensitive to it, considering I couldn’t even have garlic or even apple cider vinegar in my food at the time, it was best avoided. They really should come with a warning text though.

I resented taking pills again, but what choice did I have?

It makes perfect sense though, that probiotics would improve my acne immensely. 
I’ve always had the feeling and been told by others that it’s a gut-issue, and the gut controls all issues, even hormonal imbalances. Before all troubles started to develop I had been on two antibiotic cures very close to each other, and before that I've been on/off on Roaccutan. Even though my blood tests results said that all my values were okay if not excellent, there’s so much doctors can actually see...
 
The truth is that the human body is still a big mystery for us.

I had wiped out all my good bacteria and lowered my immune defense.
No wonder I was tired all the time. No wonder I got a mysterious lump in my chest. No wonder I suddenly suffered from chronic dizziness. No wonder my acne felt incurable.
I’m only in my twenties, I should be radiating health!
  

Undoing My Wrongs

Within a month of Probiotics my acne was slowly getting less active, and after four there's no inflamation anymore.
I originally decided to go on for three months but ended doing only two, to later introduce fermented foods again, which I now digest well without feeling sick after.

Yes, a part of me wished I had gone on probiotics sooner. It was promoted in all the books and it was clearly the right thing to do considering my antibiotic history. But I had so much faith in the foods, and we all need to do our own experiments to come to the right conclusion.

They say it takes about three years for the body to rehabilitate after antibiotics, I’m on my second year.
It’s been about three months since I took the probiotics, and while my skin has never looked clearer since my journey began it is also not completely clear. There’s still some activity around my jaw/neck area, but the rest is healing more decent than I ever would have imagined! My only trouble is the heat of the summer, which still seems to aggravate my body, so I’m back to the teachings of Ayurveda by trying to stay cool this summer.

I have one year left, and I can feel it all getting better for every month that passes.
 

Transforming

Having cystic acne concentrated around my cheeks and jawline often implies hormone imbalances.
As I started taking the probiotics I I felt this shifting; my face didn’t just get clearer, my body was also changing. 
 
I gained weight. My breasts grew bigger. My body felt more feminine. 

And my period suddenly became regular. 
It has always been all over the place since I can remember, and I’ve been tracking it for five years. I worried about being pregnant twice because it extended over 35 days. Always heavy and always crampy. But since the first month of my regime and until now my cycle has been 28 days consecutive and it’s less painful for every month. 
 

Realizing My Path

As much as I’ve looked myself in the mirror and cried, I’m very thankful for how it has shaped me and to where it has lead me. I kind of found my purpose in this all, and it has brought me so much clarity and confidence that how my face looks doesn’t really matter anymore. I now know what I want to do with my life.
 
It was never about my acne.
Who would I be without it and who would I've become?
What new friendships would I be missing?
 
I have never felt as intuned and on the right path as I've done when I found the 80/10/10 diet.
And I found it thanks to my quest for solving my problematic skin. Because I deeply believed we all deserve radiant health!
 

Results & Recommendations

So, if you are much like me, tried everything diet-wise... and of course skincare-wise… and have been on antibiotics or other medications, then it’s a big hint that your gut is imbalanced. Which of course makes it hard to absorb nutrients and actually function properly.

Acne.org lists Probiotics (depending on product) 5/5 stars, this is more than the most popular alternative method B5 3.5/5 stars which I’ve tested. And I do have to question why probiotics isn't recommended (together with diet) more often? I guess that you can't make money out of cured people...
 
It’s important to point out that a healthy diet is needed to retain a good gut balance afterwards. Bananas for example are great Prebiotics. And now when the gut can function, all those nutrients will actually absorb and help you heal those scars! Probiotics even support the Liver, and the Liver handles all excess hormones and toxins, therefore it works very well in handling hormone imbalances.
 
 
I can only speak from my own experience, so if I were you and had all these skin issues, I wouldn’t wait. I would find me some good quality Probiotics and stick to it for a few months. Avoid any inflammatory foods like Dairy, Gluten and Processed Foods, and substitute it with lots of raw foods.
And of course, transition to all natural beauty products.
 
The results is in the banana pudding, or shall I say in the good bacteria? You can definitely see the difference even months after I stopped taking probiotics!
I'm hoping that in a year this all will be healed, and almost scar-free.
 
 
 
I'd be happy to hear your stories, it may help someone else!
And if you've decided to try Probiotics, then I would love to hear the results!
 
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The Beauty Detox Solution Review

2014-06-30 @ 16:35:00

 
This is a review of the Diet based on the two books The Beauty Detox Solution & The Beauty Detox Foods by Kimberly Snyder.
Between February and April I decided to follow through with the Beauty Detox. I’ve had the books for almost a year and even though I applied many of the principles I’ve been too busy experimenting with 801010, High Raw/RT4 and Ayurveda to eat accordingly.
(Pictures taken from the Beauty Detox Foods)
 
”Think of the fierce energy concentrated in an acorn! You bury it in the ground, and it explodes into a giant oak. Bury a sheep, and nothing happens but decay.”
~ George Bernard Shaw 

It All Starts With Food

Well, it doesn’t necessarily have to, but in most cases it all either starts or lead to a change in your diet to become more connected with yourself, others and the Earth.
You’ve probably heard me mention Kimberly Snyder on more occasions than one. I have a slight feeling that I’ve even gone so far that I may have given you the feeling that she is my Mentor of some sort. I wouldn’t even call myself a fan other than her teachings resonates and make very much sense to me. Her book, together with the 80/10/10 Diet is what has shaped my diet to what it is today and impacted my life the most. 
They are very similar in their teachings, therefore very easy to blend: both High Carb Low Fat Vegan diets that focuses on being Raw or at least High Raw, but with the Beauty Detox being somewhat less extreme, allowing certain grains, cooked and less fruit with more emphasis on greens.
I want to mention that I started eating "Raw Till 4" before it even became a pronounced “Diet” thanks to Kimberly’s food combining, showing me there’s a way to enjoy some cooked and still benefit enormously!
 

The Beauty Ladder

 
"When we learn to eat properly we begin to rebuild our bodies and to fulfill our purpose on this planet to grow in health, creativity, wisdom, and compassion."
~ Dr. Ann Wigmore

There’s three stages in the Beauty Detox:
  • Phase 1 - Blossoming Beauty
    If you are a complete beginner, are overweight, suspect you may have Candida, have lots of skin issues, and stomach problems and don’t really want to invest in new kitchen equipment yet, this is where you start. This stage doesn’t allow any fruits, sugary stuff, or oils to balance your body out. You cut down on your meat intake and have it only at the end of the day. And avoid dairy and processed foods completely, and also go gluten-free.
  • Phase 2 - Radiant Beauty
    Here you will further reduce your intake of animal products and introduce the Glowing Green Smoothie (GGS). It's very similar to Blossoming Beauty only now fruit is allowed and we reintroduce some oils and fats. And no cooked foods in the mornings. This phase is where it all will kickstart and most of the benefits will start to show.
  • Phase 3 - True Beauty
    In this last stage, you will eliminate land animals completely, leaving only a small portion of fish, eggs and goat’s cheese. You may even want to decide to eliminate all animal products and go completely vegan. You will also stop having cooked grains for breakfast and lunch, only for dinners. Now the Glowing Green Juice (GGJ) will be introduced in the mornings, or you can just stick to the GGS. And fruit can be eaten abundantly. This is a pro-phase and may not suit everyone, if you somehow feel deprived and struggling it’s okay to take a step back.
You should stick to every phase at least one month before moving on to the next one. But it’s all a personal choice of what you feel comfortable with, you have the option to stick to any of these for as long as you feel/have to and move between them.
 
 
I believe that it’s thanks to these carefully planned phases that makes the beauty detox very easy to follow through. Even though it can seem as big changes, there’s a few rules you can apply to experience great benefit. I also believe in gradual changes, which this one perfectly promotes. Often times Detox is associated with being short and extreme, while here we focus on a constant detox, that is both fun and non-restrictive.

I chose to be somewhere in between Radiant and True Beauty because I wasn’t coming directly from a bad diet. There wasn’t any signs of Candida anymore, and I couldn’t imagine cutting down on fruit to be honest.
I tried sticking to the suggested menu (which are only guidelines) for you guys, to try out some of the recipes, but it isn’t meant to be followed strictly. I even gave up some of my fruit lunches, I tried waking up earlier but I usually wake up a bit later therefore my first meal usually comes around lunch-time.
According to Kimberly we shouldn’t be eating until noon or at least wait until we get hungry, and then have some GGS or fruit for breakfast in the mean time. 
This refers to Natural Hygiene, for where it’s believed that the body is detoxing between the hours of 4AM to 12PM, and so to not disturb the body’s natural process you shouldn’t kickstart with something heavy. 
 
Who knew eating like a King for breakfast would make you end up like one: fat, sick and dead.

I used to be a real big breakfast-person, who believed very much in its importance! But since learning to eat later, I’ve lost my need to nap and I have received so much more energy! It’s gone so far that I feel extremely sick if I eat within 1 hour of waking up, can’t do no more! Water and some winding up for 2-3 hours is what makes me feel amazing :)
 

Supplements To Help You Detox

Kimberly suggests taking a couple of supplements to help the detox process:
  • Probiotics
    Has many benefits the main is to help and restore your internal balance. Which of course is very important when/if coming from years of internal abuse, or taking medication and antibiotics.
  • Digestive Enzymes
    Our body has a reserve that becomes diminished with time, which means the body won’t be able to digest food as well as it could as young. Every raw plant food comes with their own digestive enzymes to help our body not deplete its own reserve, but they are super sensitive to heat, and therefore any food that is cooked will have trouble to digest.
    Kimberly advises taking Digestive Enzymes before eating something cooked.
  • Magnesium-Oxygen
    It has laxative properties without being as harsh as one, that may help you detox better without the bloating, gassiness and constipation that can follow when changing your diet. It also enhances the body’s cleansing function, which can assist problems such as acne and other imbalances.
    This one is made to be taken at the start of your journey.

These supplements aren’t cheap, so I ended up only taking Probiotics during this trial.
As I do understand the importance of these supplements I also feel like there’s many doing greatly without. But of course, had I not been so stubborn with not taking Probiotics at the first place or at least seen their importance, maybe my skin would’ve been super glowing by now!
I too would probably recommend taking a digestive enzyme for people who seem to be having trouble digesting food. But I still can’t agree on taking these on a daily basis after you’re done cleaning house, it just makes it seem like there’s something lacking in the diet - Eating cooked suddenly became very expensive.
It’s all a choice though, Kimberly never says you can’t get great health without these, but she herself is taking both probiotics and DE daily. And if you can afford, why not, but I’m not yet convinced they are truly needed.
 

Prep Like A Pro

People who say they don’t like to cook haven’t learned how to prep. No, but to be honest, I’m glad the menu is only made to be a guideline, because it wasn’t made for someone who’s working full-time.
All I felt during those two months was that I was spending a huge amount of time in the kitchen! I wasn’t used to that much cooking and preparing, when a lunch could be a cut up melon, bananas or a quick smoothie. And I had to plan the menu for at least three days ahead so I knew if there was any soaking of grains to do the night before, or the meal would be ruined. I later learned to make a batch of quinoa or millet for the whole week, but even though with all the savvy prep I learned, it did stress me out to a point where I didn’t feel it was fun any longer. But to remind us yet again, that Kimberly never intended the suggested menu to be followed strictly. Therefore, it can be as much hard work as you want it to be!
In the True Beauty Phase the lunches are all raw, so there’s not much cooking involved. But I wanted this review to not refer to someone at the top, and therefore I mixed phases. I truly wished I could’ve tested it out from the Blossoming Beauty, but I’ve come so far that cooked in the morning and no sweet fruits, just can’t do, so the test would be inconclusive.
The only positive to all the prep was fever purchases, and at the end of the week the fridge was completely used and empty!
 

Does The Beauty Detox Work?

"Nothing will benefit human health and increase chances for survival of life on Earth as much as the evolution to a vegetarian diet.”
~ Albert Einstein
 
I love the no-use of the word diet, because it isn’t just a diet, it’s how your body is designed to work. Detox isn’t something that you do after New Years Eve or once a month, it’s a process that needs to be supported daily.  And I feel as if Kimberly gives you the most simple and straight forward rules for you to follow, and explains why in an easy way to understand. I even feel as if this diet is more fail-proof, than the 811, and explains why RT4 is getting a lot of attention. Being fully raw doesn’t suit everyones situations, wallets and seasons, even though it would be optimal for your body. 
 
We all need something to begin with and strive for.
Kimberly takes a lot of her inspiration from The China Study, her own experiences with different cultures and travels. As much as I agree upon the importance of greens, I also feel as if she’s neglected the weight of fruit and where we should get our biggest source of carbs. She forgets to explain that humans are a special type of Herbivore, we are Frugivores, we need and desire most of our energy from fruit (about +55%). And while Kimberly states that she eats a lot of fruit, it doesn’t come off in the books or in the menus, more than to eat fruit on an empty stomach - that’s like translated into only one serving of fruit per day! And of course, this reads as if the books were made for the general and older public; young people would be able to handle the notion of more fruit much better. I can understand and accept this decision though.
But why I’m jammed up on this is that after my two months of trial it wasn’t like I kept going. The Beauty Detox gave me a whole other view and love for vegan food, but I went back to eating more fruit as I did before, and cut down on my grains-intake.
Nevertheless, the “diet” is a perfect introductory in improving your health, and it is probably exactly what it’s intended to be and therefore I strongly recommend it to beginners.
 

Can’t say that I don’t follow the Beauty Detox though, I just do it in my own way, just as it should.
The Beauty Principles I Have Applied To My Daily Diet and Lifetsyle is:
  • Proper Food Combining
  • Low Fat and Avoiding Oils Using Nut Butters Instead
  • Breaking The Fast At Noon
  • Glowing Green Smoothie (Not Everyday Though)
  • No Cashews and Peanuts
  • Some Fermented Foods
  • Soaking Nuts, Grains and Seeds Before Consuming
  • Eating Big Salads Before Eating Cooked or Going Out
  • Try Having Something Green With Every Meal

And my #1 Tip to do now to improve your health:
Start with having a later breakfast made up of easy digested fruit or GGS and learn proper food combining.
In my opinion, this is where anyone should start and where many health concearns could be resolved.

Thank You for reading through my review!
Check out Kimberly’s blog for more inspiration and information, and her Realize Yourself Podcasts!
 

"If you feel bound, you are bound. If you feel liberated, you are liberated. 
Things outside neither bound nor liberate you; only your attitude toward them does that."
~ Sri Swami Satchidananda
 
 
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Ewa Lie Brownies - Made Vegan!

2014-06-24 @ 14:37:50

After getting the worst stomach problems and uncontrollable gases from experimenting with gluten-free substitutes last year I then haven’t spent much time at that section. Most brands and products there are crap with tons of additives that doesn’t make any sense. If you’re not in a real Health Food Store then I would tell you to not bother and just go grain-free.

This weekend though, I went by to see if anything had changed.
The gluten-free section in the store has grown since a year back, and there’s now more options to choose from. Still, many crappy product I wouldn’t want my child near... But there was this one organic brand Ewa Lie, that caught my eye and got to follow me home.

But I didn’t realize until I got home that you’re supposed to add: 200g of Butter, 1 1/4 dl milk and 2 eggs. Of course I had to try to make these vegan, which I managed, and they turned out to be really juicy and d e l i c i o u s!
 

Ewa Lie Brownies

1Tbs Organic Coconut Oil
1 1/4 DL Vegan Milk of Choice (I used Organic Rice Milk)

I then used 2Tsp Tapioca pearls with some hot water as an egg-substitute, which I desperately failed with because it was my first time using them. It became just like those silver pearls you can buy as sprinkles... Huge fail in other words.
But considering that the batter already has a thickener, and seeing as the pearls did nothing and the batter still became thick, you can just as well do without!
But I would experiment with some hot water if the batter doesn't get thick.
 
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INGREDIENTS:
Wholegrain Rice Flour, Ra Cane Sugar, Chocolate Flakes (Raw Cane Sugar, Cacao, Cacao Butter, Emulsifier: Sunflower Lecithin), Cacao Powder, Wholegrain Millet Flour, Thickener: Locust bean gum, Bourbon Vanilla, Sea Salt. May contain Soy. All Organic Product.

7 Healthy Summer Reads

2014-06-17 @ 10:33:00

  

The Beauty Detox Solution/Foods by Kimberly Snyder

Whenever someone asks me for a suggestion on a healthy book or diet, I first and foremost tell them about Kimberly Snyders books to start off with.
I like that she doesn’t use the word ”diet” nor ever forces you to go cold turkey or change your whole diet, but actually encourages you to go slow and that there’s nothing wrong with it. She gives you three phases to go through in your own pace, and ensures you that either one of the phases will benefit you enormously.
I do read occasionally about people who take the book and meal plans too seriously, but she always encourage self exploration and that the recipes are only guidelines - therefore there’s not a lot of them to follow in the first book. And I actually like that there’s no strict meal planner to follow up on. Even though it would be nicer and easier for most, I do feel that people should understand the importance of leaving room for your own needs, we aren’t robots that function exactly the same, but we do have a few guidelines that applies to most of us.
I have The Beauty Detox Solution as an E-Book and the other one I have a hard copy of which I will review as soon as possible.
Both books aren’t necessary to possess, both do explain things like proper food combining, pH and why certain foods are bad; only that in Detox Foods it doesn’t cover everything you should avoid but goes rather quickly through those answers and focuses more on what we should eat to feel great instead. If you’re totally new to the concept of ditching dairy, cutting down on meat and avoiding oil and cashews, read the Detox Solution first. If you’re not, the second book will give you some more inspiration in the kitchen and go more deeply into what to eat for sharper eyes and lushous hair.
 

The Crazy Sexy Diet by Kris Carr

This was the first book I started reading about healthy living and eating. Who would have known that all I’ve ever learned was wrong… Or… Well that it was THAT wrong. The base of this book refers a lot to the Anti-inflamatory diet. Just like Kimberly’s books, this one is a great introductory, and quite a funny and vibrant one! This book even suits to give to a friend without being overly judge, because it’s more about empowerment and taking charge of your life and health by knowledge than it is to actually diet. They did though decide to use the word ”diet”...
There’s two sides of the Raw Food world: High Fat and Low Fat. And this book tends to gravitate towards the high fat end which will contradict with all my other book tips. But nonetheless, whatever you are following, it’s a great book to start off with and I do encourage a wide range of reads. I have sadly not tested all the recipes in the book, because I need to see the outcome first (read: pictures). You do have to keep in mind that the author has cancer, and that it may work for a healthy sick person but that you don’t have to be as strict per say and drink green juice every day, if you get what I mean.
 
 

The 80/10/10 Diet by Douglas Graham

The book came out 2007 but didn’t face a lot of spotlight until now thanks to YouTube and Instagram. There’s a few articles all from Womens Health Mag to where even Kimberly Snyder recently did a review on it. But I personally feel as if these articles aren’t fair and you shouldn’t bother believing in them. First of all, they all sound like they didn’t actually read the book page by page, second of all, they did too little research around it claiming there’s not enough greens in the diet. In reality, if you have read the book and done your research you would know that there’s a lot of of emphasis on greens and their importance, even though the diet is mostly fruit based. The book is like the Bible of HCLF Lifestyle and seems to have been misinterpret just like one, so you’ll find people doing it crazy extreme and complicated when it doesn’t have to be. It’s actually the most kind diet there is.
So I say, read the book when you feel ready, open and maybe even desperate, and take it in to suit you. I do believe we are attracted to the things we wish to see, so if this book doesn’t attract you then you’re clearly not ready for it and should start small with my other book tips. Because it may be extreme for many at first, but after a year of living along with the guidelines and my own explorations, it’s perfectly normal and the past starts looking more extreme.
 

Fit For Life by Harvey Diamond

On my Summer Reads List.
Just like 811 has some roots in Natural Hygiene, this book from the 80’s is what kind of started the movement. 
I am currently reading another book by Harvey and it’s his latest from 2007 ”Living Without Pain” (You can get the e-book for free at iHerb). I even bought it for my mom who’s been living with pain since I was born, and it was the only book translated into Swedish where they learn proper food combining in a way she would understand and actually take charge to apply it to her life.
Even though the same principles are probably preached in both books I would still like to read Fit For Life too.
By the pages I’ve read so far in LWP it’s a very subtile read, where there’s really no statement of being a raw foodist per say. There is even underlying fruitarianism, but none of which a reader would actually predict. Harvey and the whole Natural Hygiene is so inline with my own beliefs from what I’ve read so far that I really enjoy reading this book. I truly believe that many things would be cured by a simple rule of not What we eat but How we eat it. And if you’ve read Kimberly’s books you will draw similarities in how to eat, and even here there’s really no pushing and even allowance of eating meat (maybe cut it down on a bit though).
Harvey actually got terminally ill just after publishing Fit For Life, and the story of his body thriving 20 years beyond his death sentance is what LWP is all about.
It simply states, apply these principles how you want it and you could experience vibrant health. No dieting, no big lifestyle changes. Just eat the way your body is designed for. A perfect book for converting your parents in other words.
 

Green For Life by Victoria Boutenko

On my Summer Reads List.
It seems to me that Victoria is doing something wrong with carrying some extra fat for being a 100% raw foodist... Sorry, I just had to spell that out... However her story and study is quite intriguing and by my own explorations with salads come to the same conclusion. It wasn’t until I started adding more greens, having and sneaking them into every meal that all my cravings disappeared! Before I was even resenting having any greens, my teeth would hurt from all the chewing and salads are bland without dressings. It took some time and a lot of sneaking it in until I got more balanced again, and now I’m one of those who actually looks forward to my salad dinners! Like what happened?!
Victoria and her family had been fully raw for seven years when problems started to occur and they didn’t really know why. She looked at our closest relative, the Chimpanzee, which eats a diet that consists of 55% Fruit, 40% Greens and 5% Nuts and Seeds, and realized they were not getting enough mineral rich greens in their diet which they needed. You can watch an interesting interview here.
 
 

Make Peace With Your Plate by Jess Ainscough

Reading.
This book was included in my B-School Bonus and I’ve already read a few pages. If you do’t know who Jess (The Wellness Warrior) is, she got diagnosed with cancer in her arm when she was twenty-two years old, and the doctors left her with the option to amputate her arm or die in a few months. Much like Kriss Carr she found alternate methods and has now lived 6 more years since the diagnose. And this is her book to help you, as the name suggest, make peace with your food and learn how to apply new principles to your life to feel much better and thrive.
 

What Should I Eat? by Rudy Scarfalloto

On my Summer Reads List.
I just got to read a draft in the preview of the largest Raw Food Magazine Vibrance and it sparked my interest. (Read it here pages 18-19)
The book came out recently in 2013 and explores the Fruit Theory of our ancestors of the Paleolithic Period. We all are probably familiar with the Paleo diet: it’s kind of raw food with a side of eggs and meat (but everyone seems to do it differently just like with everything else). The truth is that we’ve been living off a grain based diet for the last 10 000 years, 2 million years of a hunter/gatherer diet and about 63 million years off a fruit-based diet. I love that the book isn’t about ”what should We eat?” as a whole, because we all can call ourselves for fruit eaters, meat eaters and grain eaters; enough time has passed to allow all three to be a part of our genetics to a certain degree. There’s no simple answer to what we All should eat, so the more correct question should be: What should I eat?


I encourage you to never stop learning in your journey. Embrace what seeks you and learn more about Yourself.
The best study is You.
Got any more healthy book tips? Tell me in the comments below!
Hope you consider some of these books for the summer, I would also love for you to come back and tell me your thoughts!
Happy Reads!
 
"Is the Raw Vegan Diet the Answer? I litterly know hundreds of raw vegans and nobody does this diet the same."
- Storm Talifero
 
 
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iHerb Haul - Repurchases

2014-06-09 @ 15:48:15

 
So, we bought another batch of Organic Goji Berries, despite the warning. We figured that their high nutrient content and our clean diet compensates the harsh and polluted climate they grow in. Also, we found them to be a great source of Selenium, which we run short on. I know about brazil nuts, but I never really have the urge to eat one just because.

We’ve tried Bee Pollen from other various brands but made the conclusion that these were of the highest quality by their greenish color and intense taste. Eating them straight is like taking a teaspoon of cinnamon! This did not come through with other brands. They aren’t as good tasting, but just that makes them so much more raw to me.

No matter how much I like a beauty product I will usually try something new. But Tamanu oil has become such a favorite that I see it as a staple. I thought about trying another brand, but couldn’t really find one that said ”organic” on it and I really like the dispenser on this one for future uses.
I love it with a few drops of roman chamomile to keep my skin calm as we now go into summer where my face starts to break out more (too much Pitta eh?). Of all the oils I’ve tried, it’s my favorite, by consistency and properties. The history use of Tamanu oil has been to protect the skin from the sun and sunburns, high humidity and ocean wind.
 
 
And lastly, some Raw Shea Butter. Not a repurchase. 
I’ve stopped wearing sunscreens and started looking at ancient remedies. Shea butter is high on that list, and people in Africa still uses it as protection and nourishment.
It may have and SPF of only 6, but considering eating a watermelon will give you an SPF 3, seems like big numbers aren’t what it’s all about.
This one is also infused with Frankincense and Myrrh which both has very healing properties and used for centuries, nonetheless they’ve been used as mosquito repellents.
Myrrh also has an SPF15-20, it is said that Myrrh was the secret that kept ancient Egyptian skin so lovely and tanned. They would carry a cone on their heads made of hippo fat and essential oil of myrrh that would then melt down on to their bodies, protecting them from the mosquitos and getting sunburned. It has been used to maintain healthy skin, prevent skin aging and sooth chapped or cracked skin.

The smell surprised me, and I can’t say other than that I completely love it! I don’t know why I bother describing the scent, but here we go: ”fresh cacao" and almost ”masculine” would be my opinion. Still, I like it a lot and haven’t been bitten or sunburned yet, just a lovely even tan.
For me it's been a matter of keeping my skin hydrated. Dry skin will burn, just as dry wood. Oiling yourself up creates a protective and lubricated layer that not only protects you but also nourishes you and still makes your body able to absorb some sunrays to create precious and life forming Vitamin D.
For my face I use an oil blend (with the tamanu) with some carrot seed oil for my face.
 

I’m interested to know what you use to protect yourself from getting burned?
Tell me in the comments below!
 
 
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How do you want to feel?

2014-06-05 @ 17:50:00

 
 
How do you want to feel?

Today? Tomorrow? Next week? Next month? A year from now?

How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning? How do want to feel at work?
When you eat? When you socialize? When you're out and about?

How do you want to feel right at this moment?

What feelings do you desire the most in life?

 
I found Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map through Kris Carr many months ago in one of her newsletters. I got intrigued and watched Danielle’s introductory video; it felt a bit what Peter would say ”religious”, but with me being very spiritual I did understand the greater message, and the flashing words ”How do you want to feel?” captured my deepest interest. 
Though I have to say, it wasn’t until I stumbled upon Marie Forleo and finished the course that I went back to take a closer look when I felt I needed a new way of planning my goals. It’s always like that...
 

When you’re ready, you’ll come back, you’ll see it differently and know a better way to take the information into use.

 
One of the B-School bonuses to choose from was Danielle’s Desire Map Kit, and of course it was on my mind. But I decided to go with The Wellness Warrior, which I have no regrets of. I felt that the Desire Map would always be there waiting for me. And so it did.

This way of thinking isn’t new but still mind-blowing. I mean, our bodies and minds are driven by feelings, we always know what to do to feel a certain way. 

Feeling good is what it’s all about. 


Knowing how you want to feel brings up clarity in your life. And Clarity my love is what rules our hearts and so our lives. We have just lost that touch with ourselves, with our detailed goal planning; We think: I want a new kitchen, but what we really should be asking ourselves is: What would a new kitchen feel like? (this is very individual)
Because it’s not the thing we want, it’s the feeling it will give us.

The journey should feel like the destination.

 

So, How do I want to feel? What is my core being? 
 
SERENE: frivolous, calm, peaceful, spiritual, unworried, relaxed, clear, bright, careless, light. 
 
SENSATIONAL FEMININE: gorgeous, attractive, stunning, charming, unforgettable, fascinating, graceful, sensual, charged. 
 
CLARITY: aligned, grounded, connected, knowing, ambitious, driven. 
 
VIVACIOUS: vibrant, spirited, lively, energetic, exciting, bubbly, breezy. 
 
EXPRESSIVE: passionate, creative, imaginative, meaningful, showing, artistic. 
 

As with all, feelings change. I’ve already substituted Vibrant with Vivacious, still tasting the words which fit me the best. 
Now I want you to play with me, what does your inner desired feelings tell you how to be? 
How do you want to feel to be happy? 
Bonus: Tell me three things you will do this June to generate these feeling! 
 Engage in the comments below! :)

Stop chasing a goal, just be that feeling.

 
 
 

RESOURCES TO GET YOU STARTED: 
 
Listen to sneak peak chapter and download the PDF with +150 adjectives to inspire you.
Worksheet
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NaturalBox Review

2014-06-01 @ 15:45:00

 
I remember when I was a pre-teen, there were all these book club-subscriptions. Anyone remembering Funtasie (which I didn't really know how to pronounce or what it meant at the time) and Sisters? Well, I remembered the joy of getting a secret package every month through the mailbox. I didn't think that years later there would be a grown-up version of this, but of course I had to test some of them out!
 
Last year I had a 12 month subscription of Glossybox given to me by my boyfriend at Christmas after some begging..
You may recall me posting some of the boxes but then stopping. Well, the more I grew into simplistic and natural beauty and health, the less impressed I got of the things in the box. You can guess right that I was a bit sad and torn when someone else had spent their money on a gift I actually begged for and to then not really take value in it! I felt so ashamed.
Well, I did the best of what I could with the not-so-clean products. Sometimes you would be lucky to get something from like Balance Me and Zoya. Oh the happiness when that happened! But most products weren't on my clean list to say.
 
So for this Christmas Peter and I decided to have a joint gift and bought us a 6 months subscription at Naturalbox which focuses on natural beauty and healthy snacks. I thought it would suit our new lifestyle better and be less disappointed and actually take use in the products.
 

So why haven't I showed you any pictures or even mentioned my subscription?

The simple answer is: We used it up before I could even tell you!
We would usually get our box every Friday which we would pick up on our way to Sundsvall. The snacks would then vanish before we even got there, and well then it would just not be a complete picture haha
To say the least, it was fun to have a box that we both could enjoy!
 
The subscription is a bit pricier than Glossybox but I l do agree here that you get more value for your money and most of the beauty products are full size.
Another difference is that you kind of can know what will be presented in the next box. There is a mystery box available, but you can always try to just avoid checking their page out and it will be a surprise!
 

Did I love it all?

I don't like to find faults, but here's my less positive experience: 
  • You could get a sample twice or more from the same product. It's actually not a big deal, if you bought the product you could always give the sample away to someone.

  • The snacks weren't always "clean". I mean, no matter what candy, candy will always be processed, refined and unhealthy. The same for the bars, where I prefer my own low fat ones for energy.

  • Too much focus on same brands. During these six months I've only gotten to try Phenomé, Mádara, Nonique and Inecto Pure Coconut. The last one not being "clean" in my eyes, but I tried it. In six months I would have loved to try more products. But except for Inecto Pure Coconut, I loved the products I've gotten and use them everyday!

  • There was a problem with the February box, which I know wasn't their fault, but I sure would've loved to been informed via email than finding it out on Facebook. Even when I emailed I didn't get the real cause of the delay. So my tip for them would to always stay in touch with their subscribers via mail and always tell what's going on.
 
Nonetheless I'm very happy with my subscription, and the last months has been delivered without problem. Both Peter and I are considering continue our subscription, but there's more vegan snack boxes that have popped up that we may also would like to try out: Vegansk Snackbox and Veganlådan. And to add, Naturalbox is also coming out with a Veganbox!
 
I enjoyed getting teas and lipbalms - can never have too much of those you know! Anything from Go For Life and drinks were always appreciated.
It was really the right step from Glossybox and I never felt disappointed in that I couldn't use a product.
My favorite box was the last one (May), even though it had less products than the boxes before I totally loved the Limited Edition "Nothern Herbarium" from Mádara Cosmetics.
Other things I enjoyed getting was: Humble Brush, Organic Toothpaste, Organic Vanilla, Organic Dried Pineapple, Coconut and Birch water.
 
It absolutely gets the "Frivolous Girl Approval"-stamp! (remind me to make one!)
 
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Do you have any other vegan/natural beauty related box subscriptions?
 
 
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Review: Lily Lolo Concealer + Brushes

2014-05-23 @ 15:23:25

 
I got the lovely suggestion to test Lily Lolo's concealer by my follower Jenny.
I haven't tried a thing from the brand yet but been planning to buy a few makeup samples for my next natural makeup brand to try out.
 
Lily Lolo recently did a rebranding of their design and I must give it to them, it looks so exclusive and elegant than the past that I was actually willing to give them a try. - I ashamedly judge books by their cover!
With their new design they also came out with a new set of sleek looking brushes.
 
Lily Lolo only offers samples on their bigger products and after having some bad luck with past concealers, I was a bit on the fence ordering a full size.
After going through their Shade Guide and looking for the complementary concealer to the foundation shades I would've gone with, it was really no doubt about Caramel. I'm sure Nude would suit as well, but I really didn't need another concealer being slightly too light on me and with summer on its way there's really no stress of it being too dark.
With that I also decided to invest in a proper concealer and eyeshadow brush that I've been missing.
 

Lily Lolo Powder Concealer in Caramel

£7.99
★★★★
 
THE DIFFERENCE
It contains Kaolin.
Which you usually use in mud masks for healing and detoxing properties and hair products to absorb and control excess oil. My eyelids being very moist and on the oily side I hoped this would fix my problem with eyeshadows not sticking.
Also, what I missed with the Tikei concealer was Zink Oxide, even though powder SPF isn't something to lean on, I feel safer knowing that there's something around my eyes with full spectrum, reflecting and preventing aging around that delicate area.
 
THE FIT
The color Caramel was such a successful match to my light to slightly more medium complexion that I could even use it to fade down any dark spots that stands out! It won't however cover them completely.
You get a great amount and a natural look for the price!
 
+ -
I'm so content with this product that I actually don't have much bad to say about it!
Some pointer would be to say that it can be a bit hard to wash off completely without using a moist pad and some oil. But in general, long lasting is considered a plus.
Unfortunetly, my lids are just too oily, but after one stroke, wipe and another it usually stays in place.
I haven't experienced much creasing in fine lines, but would still recommend someone more mature to look for liquid concealers.
 

Lily Lolo Concealer Brush

£6.49
★★★★
I once bought a concealer brush but it was for liquids and didn't work as well as my finger.
The Lily Lolo concealer brush is vegan friendly, teddy-soft and should work with both powder and liquid concealers.
I believe that no matter what product you use, without the right brush it won't give the best result.
 
THE RESULT
After getting used to using Tikei's fluffy shading brush for applying concealer, we can just say it took a few uses until I completely and utterly fell in love with this flat tapered brush!
It blends the powder concealer into your skin just like a liquid, giving you a flawless second-skin-look.
I haven't used it with a liquid yet, but wouldn't be surprised if it left the same result.
It works well with other concealers too like the one from Alima Pure. 
 
THE QUALITY
I've only had it and used it for two months and I can say that the quality is impeccable. I've not experienced any shedding with it, nor any looseness of the holder, or decline of the softness.
 
I know I have no real preference to other concealer brushes, but for the decent price, quality and result of the brush, this is the Brush to have for concealers!
 

Lily Lolo Eyeshadow Brush

£5.99
★★★★☆
I feel like the odd one who's never had a proper eyeshadow brush... When I got the eyeshadow samples from Tikei I panicked because I didn't really have a brush that suited for loose eyeshadows. All my life it's been pressed and finger friendly.
 
THE RESULT
It's definitely easier to work with the loose eyeshadows now, creating a finish all over-lid.
The brush is supposed to work with both pressed and loose, and I can confirm it.
 
THE QUALITY
This brush contains the same excellent quality as the concealer brush: no shedding, soft and easy to work with.
 
There's still just something with the brush that doesn't make me want to brag about it. Can an eyeshadow brush impress one?
However, my experience with brushes like these isn't that wide to begin with.
For the price and quality, it works.
 
 
You can buy Lily Lolo and samples at their offical store which have an offer for this weekend:
10% Off all orders over £15 with code: HOLIDAY14
 
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May Wishlist

2014-05-21 @ 08:25:00

 

Living Libations - Everybody Loves The Sunshine

”Sunburns are easier for our DNA to process than the cell damage of being in the sun with sunscreen”
~Nadine Artemis

I’ve gotten the great recommendation from you guys to try Seabuckthorn Oil, which I much appreciate! And my precious Tamanu Oil is also getting to its last drops. I thought I would kill two birds with one stone here, when I decided to plunge for Living Libations Best Skin Ever Seabuckthorn (which also includes Tamanu oil!), but just when I looked at their website for one hundred time I came across another oil blend called Everybody Loves The Sunshine.

I looked at the ingredient list and it is similar to the Best Skin Ever, but like, even better! It has several oils that I’m looking for to add to my collection in building my own natural sunscreen, but to get it all and make my own would cost me quite much to start.
I love exploring, and this one sounds just like the thing I’m looking for! ELTS also comes in a Zinc Oxide-version (20%), but I’d love to have something to use both day and night - and buying both is just too expensive right now. 
I’m planning to have it join me in July for the ultimate test.

I recommend you watch this video of Nadine Artemis giving a lecture on sunscreens and their affect on us.

Lily Lolo - Eyebrow Duo

I’m still using and have much left of TiKei’s eyeshadow in Cacao to fill in my brows. It’s come to that point where I don’t feel complete without it, and I don’t even have thin or light eyebrows!
What I really missed in the natural mineral makeup world was an eyebrow product with both color and wax.
I even glanced at the popular brands like Anastasia and Smashbox for good brow duos, but both of these don’t have clean ingredient lists and are quite expensive. So I was very pleased, thankful and creeped out (did they read my mind?!) when Lily Lolo came out with an Eyebrow Duo just a few weeks ago! Great price too!

Kure Bazaar in Melrose

I used to buy a new O.P.I nail polish every month or so. I used to always have painted nails.
Lately I’ve been au natural for quite some time. I don’t know if I got unconsciously put off by the chemicals I’ve been exposing myself too. For example, I did everything else right, but would repaint my nails every two weeks. I don’t wear jewels, so you could say nail polish was kind of my accessory and way of expression.

I’m thinking of giving away my toxic collection and replace it with less toxic polishes. I like the look of Kure Bazaar and wouldn’t mind owning every single shade. Melrose, which is one of their newer shade, caught my eye. Every summer I usually paint my nails and toes in O.P.I’s Strawberry Margarita (bright pink), and Melrose reminds me much of it but being softer and ”spring”-like.

Infinity Strap

My second course of Ashtanga Yoga ended just a week ago. I’m on the fence if I truly want to continue with my practice, namely Ashtanga series. And as much as I like having a teacher correcting me and helping me go deeper, I feel like I’ve hit a plateau.
I know this is perfectly normal, and that it is now that I should keep practicing strong. But sometimes it feels better to just accept what is and focus on other things that needs improvement. Skipping class you paid for and thinking ”when is this over” will not make you a better Yogi.

So I’m thinking of taking some time off from class (maybe leaving room for drop-ins) and do home practice for a while.
To get deeper in positions by oneself I felt the need for a yoga strap. I came across the Infinity Strap, which also come in a stretch-version. They give you perfect reasons on why it is better than the original strap and I love the innovative thinking! 

More info on the Infinity Strap here.

Juil Shoes

Earthing or Grounding as it is called is having the spotlight. It’s no science, being barefoot stimulates us in a sense of feeling connected to the earth and everything around. I always feel like I have such better understanding of my surrounding when I have both of my soles on the ground. Unfortunately, concrete isn’t that nice to walk on, and selfish people makes it hard to not get hurt while trying to walk barefoot, so shoes are a must.

Whether these shoes has the ability to ground me through copper connectors beneath each toe or not, I think Juil’s collection of sandals are very pretty overall. They are not cheap but the price don’t differ much from another pair I’ve had my eyes on, except that one will ground me to the earth and the others will not.

I’ve only found one place that ships these overseas, you find their stock here.
More info on Juil Shoes here.
 
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Detox Your Life: How To Let Go Of Toxic Relationships & Feeling Good About It

2014-05-14 @ 18:04:00

 
There’s a lot going on about practicing self love right now, and I would liked to make a contribution on the subject. Because no one knows as much about self love as I do to be honest. Or at least, I’ve never come across someone treating themselves as good as I do ;) I just looove being myself haha
 
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There’s a big reason why I choose a more solitude life and don’t go out with friends or have many of them, it’s because I am an emotion-sponge. It’s exhausting for me to be around people, especially those who are emotionally charged in one way or another. People are often unaware of what energy they send out just by riding the train.

Knowing how others emotions affect me I’m quick to remove myself from any situation (read: person) that makes me not feel uplifted. You may think I’m afraid of facing problem, no, this isn’t like that.
I know how it feels to be alone and have no fiends at all. One of them are more stressful and the other one is freedom.

Now, I’ve noticed during my years that people tend to be lazy about this. Everyone can spot a toxic person, but only 1% does something about it. This is because most people don’t love themselves enough to do whatever it takes to make themselves happy. It may be considered egoistic, but when you think about it, everyones happiness depends on Your happiness. If you feel good more joy will enter your life. By choosing to surround yourself with negative energy, you are allowing it into your life which will hold you back from anything good to want to come your way!

First off what is a toxic person?
  • Someone who drains your positive energy.
  • Makes you mad for reasons you shouldn’t or don’t even know.
  • Someone who does not support you and your goals.
  • A person who dumps their negative feelings onto you.
  • A person who complains but doesn’t do anything to change.
  • Makes you feel like you have to impress them, but no matter what you will always feel worthless or not yourself.
Basically, they cause unwanted stress and should be considered a toxin.
This could be a friend or a family member, but probably not your pet. If that's so, you’re probably not doing a great job being a leader.

Why is it important to remove or avoid negative people?
  • They drain your energy level, causing stress and anxiety which can lead to health problems.
  • They slow down your ambition by inserting doubts and fears in your mind.
  • They block the space for your own self growth, holding you back from taking positive opportunities and for success to happen.

So how do we detox these people out of our lives?
I give you a tree-step process because that is all you will need!
  

STEP 1: YOU DESERVE IT

The first step in any is to feel that you deserve better. Because you do! Don’t feel the least ashamed!Know you Deserve positive people around you!You are special.You are powerful.No matter what anybody implies, You are worth just as much as them.You deserve to be around people who treats you nice, that lift you up, respects you and helps you grow!That is the truth!
You need to decide that you are worth it.Don’t let somebody else hinder you to show your gifts to the world. Because you are freaking awesome! You know it. Your friend knows it. I even know it. You deserve the Best and most potent people around you!
 
You need to ask yourself:
  • Does this person support my goals or slow me down in achieving them?
  • Does this person constantly complain or actually take in my advise?
  • How do I feel after a meeting with this person, all drained or uplifted?
 

STEP 2: LET THEM GO

Depending on how close you are and the feelings towards this person. If you can’t see yourself breaking the chains instantly then I’m suggesting first of all to actually confront the person.
Yes, tell them how you feel, give them your outmost constructive critique - just don’t sink yourself to their level.
You could also do the Step 1 for them, encourage them to take action with their problems instead of dumping all of their insecurities on to You - Tell them how strong they are! Because it’s the same here, only They themselves can decide to end their misery, not you.
If this person doesn’t change or even tries to change their behavior then the true fact is that this person doesn’t deserve your help or attention. They clearly don’t appreciate you or listen to you, and that’s your energy going to waste.

Think of all the people who’s waiting out there for you, desperate in need of your advice and who actually will listen! Don’t take that away from them!
 
Let that person go by:
  • Avoiding them. Yes, sometimes some old grade school-behavior is necessary, but it’s for Your own good, and theirs too actually. But don’t go and be an actual 14 year old, apologize for being distant but you don’t have to go further explaining why. Look at it more like ”Growing Apart” That shit actually happens, even in adult years!
  • Be drastic. If you feel like you need to and if it is appropriate, you can decide to cut the ropes dramatically. You really shouldn’t feel ashamed here but to embrace that new fresh air that suddenly got flowing when that big rock got lifted off your chest!
  • Let them go with love. Be open to the change and possibility that they might grow and be ready to actually take in some of your love and support while you keep your distance. Then you can meet them half way and slowly start introducing them to your life again.
 

STEP 3: SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LOVE

As I said, You deserve to be acknowledged by people who appreciates you.
 
These people will:
 
  • Actually listen and take action on your advice.
  • Support and encourage you in any decisions or ideas that you have.
  • Make you feel uplifted and thankful for their company.
  • Inspire you. 
 
 
I’ve cut the ropes with many in my life, both drastic and in time, it’s a natural part of growing and finding yourself. You may be forced to be with some, but you can always choose on where and how you put your energy on them. That energy is yours, and you do whatever you want with it. Just know that you can create great things with it, for Yourself, and Others who will actually listen and respect you. Invest it on good things.
 
 
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 Now tell me, are there any relationships in your life you feel like removing?
Have you gone through a break up with a friend because of their negative energy?
What was some of the difficulties in doing so?
Let me know in the comments below!
 
 
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